Friday, January 30, 2015

You. Me. She. Him.

You. Sucker for love. You appreciate any love coming in your direction and value the person giving. The face behind this is a beautiful individual. Caring, loving, respectful, loyal, hard working and honest. You love life. You’re all about family, friends, good laughs and fun. Who wouldn't? You have great people in your life who have your back and love you dearly. You have this motivation about life and know you’re destined for greatness no matter what or how long it may take. You have this same motivation with your relationships as well. You want someone who has the same drive as you and loves and appreciates you for who you are. Always making Saturday plans being that Sunday is game day no matter the sport. The greeting when seeing or leaving one another, the smile she has that lets you know it’s love, the taking to friends and the impromptu importance she shows you when you’re in need. You wanted someone like this your entire life and she’s finally yours...so did you actually find what you were looking for or do you want more?
Me. Logic over love. Warm hearted but zero tolerance for lies and bullshit, hardworking, cool with certain family members of his and watchful eye on certain friends. What? Just looking out for him and feel years have nothing on hate, lies, and being phony. I love him but will put love on hold for the wrong person and make it harder for the next person. Continuous cycle I guess. I can laugh and joke all day but feel those traits are brought out with certain people. Not everyone sees it. Have very few surrounding me and have always been that way. I feel the less drama the better. Hard to figure out at times, complex even but good to those who are good to me. My true friends see me as goofy and open while outsiders simply see me as cold. I make time for my relationship and always makes plans for us to do something fun. Is this controlling behavior or just a good girlfriend being...good?
She. Breath of fresh air. Everything you were looking for and more. Could see you having a life with her and a good one at that. The femininity she has with her emotions are too good to be true and not seen often by most women. She doesn't have many people around her but is loved by many. Kind hearted, open, she doesn't judge you and her feelings toward you are mutual. Good feeling. It’s like your home away from home kind of thing. When there’s no one left to talk to, she’s there. She loves and respects everyone in your life from the ones who take up most of your time to the ones you only see once a year. Thinks with her heart and knows no other way...so did you find her yet or are you still looking?
Him. The mans man. Work, God first then family. Awesome provider but sometimes does not stop to smell the roses. The weekend is his time because he feels he’s done enough Monday through Friday. But is that really enough? Very subtle when it comes to his emotions...is he upset, stressed, just thinking, being funny, being serious. Difficult to deal with at times but you guys always laugh it off and move on. He makes you feel good even with very little time spent. Foot rubs aren’t a problem, back rubs, bubble baths, and nice dinners. Communication is not key with this guy though. Work seems to always be at the top of the list then family then his man such and such. Can we talk about our life, our future, plan the next vacation maybe? You often have to question many of his motives for life in general and if you are even in the future plans...are your needs really met? Is this where you really belong?

What makes us constantly question ourselves when it comes to love and relationships? No matter how good things are going, there is always going to be that point we began to wonder: Is this person for me? Is He or She a better match for my future plans? Am I not good enough to spend quality time with? Why is work life so much more important than our love life? Instead of seeing what’s real and in plain sight, we ignore the important aspects and give too much attention to our negative thoughts. Instead of praying together, we complain to our single friends giving false accusations because we did not communicate to our partners about how we feel. Sometimes we are even taken to another place and usually with someone else (He or She) and imagine what we could have instead of appreciating or improving what we already have. It takes time but getting into a daily mental routine will eventually improve your thinking in a positive direction. At any moment I could have “Him” if I wanted or he could have “She” but will that really make things better? The grass is not always greener on the other side. Love yours.

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Women and hygiene

I can not for the life of me understand why a woman would not want to take good care of herself?!? These are almost always the women walking around claiming they’re “bad” because of the attention the backside and thighs creates. I know people have their different living situations and it’s tough but you make it work. You can’t walk around talking about how “bad” you are with B.O. It’s not cute to dress to impress but smell terrible. Of course we all have our sweaty moments and moments where we don't feel like washing our hair or derriere...but only when staying in the house. Especially during the summer months!
Lets keep it real, a lot of women, even when grown, don’t even know when to change their tampons, pads and pantyliners. To keep it fresh, there’s all sorts of powders, vaginal washes, hot water, soap, cotton underwear in the world to keep it clean and fresh down there. I also see a lot of women who don’t believe in shaving their underarms but will wear a sleeveless top or go out partying? And my daily commute, I see this too often. The one thing that really kills me is when I’m talking to another woman and her hair stanks! Yes stanks. Especially when they walk by you and you get the wind after they walk by... Like it smells like dirty pillow cases and old grease or something. That belief that dirt makes the hair grow thing went out the window a long time ago and we should be washing our hair at least every 2 weeks with a perm and every week when natural to keep it conditioned. Who doesn’t like for their scalp/hair to feel clean and free?
Now the curling iron smell is one all women can relate to but that dirty hair smell is one of a kind and can create a headache. Whether your natural, permed, blonde or brunette, ladies, should keep it washed. A couple of other things that kills me is a past due weave and the rest of the hair being permed but seems they forgot the edges and back of the neck... You know when their hair is pulled up in a really cute bun and the neck is nappy as all hell and doesn’t look like they ever attempted to comb or brush it? Yes, I do not understand that but if it works for you, do you. The past due weave is something I don’t quite understand...at all. With a weave you have to plan ahead. If you know in a few weeks that when that weave needs to be replaced and you won’t have the money or at least half, don’t do it or just buy a wig or something until further notice or a $7 perm. It will save you money. I’ve always heard older women say “you can always tell when a woman has no man” or “what your hair smells like is what she smells like down there” and this is indeed true! Any man in his right mind that loves and cares about his woman, will not walk around with her looking pitiful or will tell her she needs a different feminine wash or something.
Now with the face being the first thing seen when looking at you, your lips are being looked at when communicating. Ash, dryness, chap, powdery-look whatever can be taken care of with chapstick, lip gloss or lipstick. Vaseline works well also. Like I stated in the beginning, nobody is perfect and will have their days but these things shouldn’t be an everyday occurrence when being a woman. Sorry to have offended anyone but needed to get that off my chest.

To better hygiene!

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Bad management

You call out of work for whatever reason and your manager gives you b.s about them now not having enough coverage, how you’re going to be behind on work and all deadlines for the week will not be met. Never asking: “are you okay? Is your mom out of the hospital? How is little sammie doing with his cold/fever/flu?” Really? At that moment I could give not one but two shits about numbers needing to be made or work that will not be done if all if the above is going on!
We have all ran into that asshole manager or managers/GM’s or supervisors throughout the duration of our careers thus far. Trust there will be more. What is it about “titles” that make an individual act in an “assholish” way to the point where they are disliked, employees call out like it’s no tomorrow, they are on every job website possible in between meetings and barely do any work while there. I understand business is business but people are just people as well. I will have times where I will be late, sick/flu, kid issues or just lacking the energy to go to a job I dislike. Hey, we all go that route at least 5 days out the year whether you like your job or not. I personally feel that if it’s something you love to do for a living, no need to be rude, smile, be a good example, embody the companies expectations and your employees will do the same. Period. You took the position, play your part. If you did not, then maybe turning it down would have been your best bet. You give asshole, you get asshole. If many people were not afraid of losing their jobs due to bills, needing to eat or gas money etc, there would be millions of people out of work or really considering going into business for themselves no matter the cost.
What is it about companies that consistently give the wrong people positions that require more than what they are willing to give? They mostly just want the raise, vacation days, benefits such as health and dental, the authority to do whatever they want and sadly nothing at all. My job alone, managers sit in the office on a daily basis for hours at a time. They come out, throw around a few orders and sometimes even try to have convo with you as you’re doing the task without guidance but want things to be done by a certain time…? How about reaching out to me on a different level. Ask how the position is going, if I would like or consider moving somewhere more comfortable, ask me my strong and weak points and assist me with working on them and see if I’m just doing okay overall considering that will affect my performance.
Many managers believe they are smarter than you because of their role but in ALL actuality, YOU are the dumb one. Especially if you don’t have your own company/business. You have a career you don’t like working with peers that are in the same boat as you and your miserable. You then began to take this out on your employees, even the ones that bust their asses on a regular basis forcing them to look elsewhere taking their skills with them. The same ones they learned from you or the company in general but will now be more advanced and professional especially after working with you. They may even make more money than you without having to have your position or wait as long before getting there. Last but not least, word of mouth. There is always that person with that second job, the student or the parent that has grown children. Their children are probably looking for jobs but you tell them to avoid a specific company or maybe even career if it’s that bad. With all of the social media, there is always those people complaining about work, the environment, that manager that irks the last nerve by noon, how management operates and corporate not caring.
In conclusion, to all of the asshole managers out there that are condescending, ignorant to human issues, only see dollar signs and care about the well being of self and for their bank account I give you TWO MIDDLE FINGERS AND EVERY CURSE WORD IN THE ENGLISH DICTIONARY. You make good employees lives a living miserable hell at work and with the economy the way it is and people having a hard time finding a job period, you know to a certain extent that you can get away with it. This too shall pass and I hope that you have everything you deserve coming your way very soon. Many people can agree and we are just sitting back and waiting.
P.s may you not prosper and all of your employees quit without notice. (LOL)